I think we all through phases where we don't feel like we are important to others or that we don't really add much to a relationship. I often just feel like MOM, the woman with no real life of her own. I often feel like my wants and needs fall to the bottom of the list.
But then I ask myself, who made that list?! I sure had a hand in it. Moms just put themselves last so that we are sure to have enough resources to meet the needs of our family members FIRST. If there is anything left, we settle for that. Am I right? I didn't think I was raised to act that way, but looking back on the past 20 years, I can see that it was just an automatic thing for me to put my needs, my LIFE, last.
Often I think that my presence doesn't matter to anyone here. I wonder if my family sees me or even HEARS me sometimes.
But then I sit back and recall the few times that I have had to go away for a few days at a time. The kids MISSED ME! Who knew? Hubby said he can't sleep well when I am not here because I have always been here these past 23 years. So maybe all of those evenings that I felt ignored and almost invisible, I guess the family really did notice my presence. I do have a role here. We all have our niche, our slot, in the grand scheme of things. When one of us is gone, the others notice! Who knew?
It's a shame that we often don't know what we have until it's gone. if you get a moment with your people tonight, take a good hard look at them and acknowledge their presence. None of us are here forever. Everyone matters.
Do you have your role in a family or a close circle of people? What would people miss the most if you weren't there?
I'm done rambling. For now! :lol: